I need your help...

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by Svenja (don't need any!) on Sunday, 23-Mar-2008 16:39:04

Hi there Zoners,

I realy need your help! Yesterday I had my first time to say to one, who wanted a relationship with me, I already have got a boyfriend and that hurt me, to say that. But the worst is, it seems like I can't get ready with that! The thing is, my feelings always turn. First I felt pain, that turned into sadness after that, it was happyness about anyone is in love with me and I made it to say "no", then it was, I wanted to help him to get ready with that, it turned back into sadness and so on... I realy don't know, how to get ready with that!
I hope, you can help me or build me up somehow...

yours Sharpay
P.S: The one knows, if he is ment and please, don't be sorry for me!

Post 2 by Stevo (The Established Ass) on Monday, 24-Mar-2008 2:35:03

Perhaps say that in your profile so you don't have to reject more people? I'm not sure...

Post 3 by Svenja (don't need any!) on Monday, 24-Mar-2008 3:02:49

HM, you could be right, Steve. Thanks.

Post 4 by josh (124) on Tuesday, 25-Mar-2008 19:17:02

don't be so sensative toward other when it comes to you being happy. That person will find someone eventually, and if he really cares for you then he'll understand.

Post 5 by Svenja (don't need any!) on Friday, 28-Mar-2008 3:36:13

yeah, thanks for that, I am over it!

Post 6 by kiayaj! (You're favorite rebel!) on Monday, 07-Apr-2008 15:11:39

wow...*me is very confused! lol, but it's all good! let me get this straight! You have a boy friend, but another person really wants to get with you? is that right?

Post 7 by Svenja (don't need any!) on Thursday, 01-May-2008 14:59:54

Kia, that was right.

Post 8 by sea star (I just keep on posting!) on Friday, 02-May-2008 3:37:44

yeah, i know how you feel. just be honest and tell the other person that you're already in a relationship. but it is hard when you and that person have so much in common, but no matter how much you may be falling for that person, you have to realize where your heart should be.

Post 9 by Ok Sure (This site is so "educational") on Friday, 02-May-2008 18:43:01

I hate to say this, but all of this seems like horrible advice. If your boyfriend will never find out about the other person, I say cheat! Cheat until your little cheating heart is content and can cheat no more. Yes, that's right, go behind his or her back and just be completely selfish. The truth is, you are young, it’s not like you're going to marry this person. They will get over it, I'm sure.

So again, keep in mind, cheat! Cheat and then lie about it. Remember, you're not caught until there is video footage of you actually committing the offense. And, even then, someone could have doctored the footage.

Post 10 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Saturday, 03-May-2008 0:43:29

you're not serious are you? that's horrible? I certainly pity your partner!

Post 11 by sea star (I just keep on posting!) on Saturday, 03-May-2008 1:50:14

that's horible! how can you just say to cheat on your partner. i mean you're totally screwing them over and they don't even know it.

Post 12 by midnight sun (you can't catch me, i'm the palobread man) on Saturday, 03-May-2008 1:53:47

lmao, something tells me this guy's joking

Post 13 by Svenja (don't need any!) on Saturday, 03-May-2008 8:23:07

@Ok Sure: pure girl or boy, who gets together with u, I know, how cheating hurts, I'd never do it, but what I wanted to say is, all that things are over, he got over it and fund someone, and me and my BF aren't together anymore, cause he cheated on me the whole time of our relationship... It hurts...

but thanks for ur tries to help me

sharpay

Post 14 by Ok Sure (This site is so "educational") on Tuesday, 06-May-2008 11:54:15

Now, of course I wasn't kidding, I'm quite the serious type...

Just imagine the hurt you would of avoided if only you had cheated, while your boyfriend was cheating? Sure, there would of been a terrible sense of paranoia on both your parts, but there would of been no pain to deal with, just pleasure and guilt, just like eating a whole lot of chocolate, pleasure and guilt...

Now that gets me thinking, yumm, chocolate, cheating, chocolate and cheating, oh my!

I'm brilliant! Next time you cheat, bring some chocolate into the equation!

Post 15 by moyzey (i'm posting? huh?) on Tuesday, 06-May-2008 12:18:15

If you're not serious, then fair enough
if you're being serious, then quite simply you're an asshole
I feel Sorry for any partner you have, or will ever have with that attitude. Get some Loyalties

Post 16 by TheAsianInvasion (The Zone's invader) on Wednesday, 07-May-2008 6:17:56

cheeting, no, just a simple no. that's something I'll never do, because of what it can cause.

Post 17 by Devious_Britches (smarty pants) on Wednesday, 07-May-2008 16:16:31

Well I thought I understood where Ok sure was coming from but umm yeah I think I was wrong. I thought the reason they said to go ahead was them trying to make the point that Ca felt bad for having to say no to this person who fell in love with them. Because if there is true love then doesn't matter who comes along no is an easy answer. You're not hurting anyones feelings if you are honest from the get go. If they still do well then it's still not your fault. It's their problem. You then say look we can be close but nothing more and if you can't accept that then I'm sorry but goodbye. When you are young you will fall in love a hundred times over. Enjoy yourself and don't commit to some thing untill you are ready and know what love is. That's my two cents.